How to Get Unstuck (End Self-Sabotage)

I’m a sales coach, so why don’t I share with you how to sell yourself, on yourself.  Too many times I find people succeeding in one area of life but sabotaging themselves in another.  Let’s get you “unstuck.”

If you have found yourself sabotaging yourself, meaning you have a positive intention, but your behavior doesn’t match your goal/intention, then you are stuck.  The first step to freedom is asking yourself this one question.  “What do I have to believe to…?”

What do you have to believe to increase your income?

What do you have to believe to maintain a slim figure?

What do you have to believe to stay consistent in (fill in the blank)?

When you start asking better questions, you start to shift.  First it must be mental, your body is controlled by your mind.  So, you must have a new thought, a new idea, a new perspective to make any form of change.  You can start by writing down what you wish you didn’t believe, like I wish I didn’t believe that money is hard to make, and then write out the opposite of that belief, (Money flows to me easily and effortlessly). This is the first step to change. If repeated enough and then  implemented by taking new actions, you will start to shift.  It’s been proven scientifically that when you speak positive words to a glass of water, then seen under a microscope, the water will crystallize (beautiful). If you speak to water with negative words like, “I hate you”, the water will mold.  Imagine if you started to speak to areas of your body that you had pain in. Imagine if what you spoke, you felt. This is where change starts.

The next question you want to ask yourself is: How will you know when (fill in the blank)?

How will you know when you are happy?

How will you know when you are successful?

How will you know when…?

I had a “one on one” coaching client say to me, “Tamara I’m just not happy.” I said, “How will I know when you are happy, in case we run across happiness in our 90-minute coaching session.” She said, “I will be happy when my son makes his bed every day, when I sell 90% of my clients and when I’m in a happy committed relationship.” I said, “Do you know anyone that has all these 3 things?” She said “No” and I said,  “Then you will remain stuck.”

To get Unstuck she had to identify new breakthroughs to determine her happiness, which she needed to shift from exterior things (things she couldn’t control) to things she could.  Happiness is a choice, and I see people waiting for the husband, the 7-figure income, the stuff to determine their happiness, and it just doesn’t work that way.  You must determine a breakthrough for you to feel happy now.  If you’ve ever said, “I’ll be happy when…” then you will be stuck.  To access freedom and to get unstuck you must make a new choice and not let your current circumstances dictate your happiness.  The gap between expectations and realty can be misery for many people —- they can be stuck in a reality they didn’t see happening.  To get freedom you must make a shift in your perspective.

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